Dealing With Heartbreak While Running A Business.

I thought of the idea for this piece last night while lazying around in the tub. Sometimes it’s easy to find things to write about, sometimes it feels like the ideas are right there at the tip top of my brain but I can’t access them. Isn’t it strange? Now I know why so many writers before me tried vodka or whiskey to loosen up a bit and get over the keyboard jitters.

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Don’t worry. I don’t drink, anymore. Enough of my rambling though. Dealing with heartbreak is never fun, ever. It’s always messy and you end up on your bed at 2 am with  melted chocolate smothered on your pajama bottoms; crumpled up tissues littered across the comforter.

“I loved him” … “How did this happen?” … “It wasn’t suppose to turn out this way”.

All things I’ve sobbed into the phone while my best friend says “He was an absolute ass hat.”

 

It’s tough, it’s really tough if you’re heartbroken over a lover. It can happen for any reason, perhaps you simply weren’t meant to be or perhaps something more tragic happened and someone you loved dearly passed away.

It’s even harder when you have a business to run and you’ve got to stay strong. You are the last line of defence, employees come to you, customers come to you, your dog comes to you looking for comfort. It can be even harder when you’re just starting a business and your only employee is yourself.

You have to keep pushing on through the grief. You must keep putting one foot in front of the other despite the black glob of grief that has lodged itself in the centre of your chest.

It can be a great for a few brief moments to distract the mind and it’s even better to dive into something and use all of that emotion to fuel you and fuel the business. Growth can often be seen in times of struggle.

Don’t let anything stop you. Sure, you may have just been dumped by who you thought was the “love of your life” or maybe you did the dumping (you powerful goddess you). Your business, the thing you are passionate about, that thing you’ve been working so hard for… it’s still there and it needs you. Take life’s challenges and be vulnerable, get real, help others through the same damn things.

The things in my life that I thought were terrible misfortunes always have a way of ending up to be huge blessings in disguise. It might take months, it may even take years, but one day you’ll be glad it happened and you’ll be glad you put all that fierce energy into your business.

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This isn’t really a “how-to” blog post because I believe everyone processes grief differently and what might work for one person won’t necessarily work for the other. So do whatever you have to do in order to get back to grinding, to step back into that hustle and focus.

Have a personal talk with yourself in the mirror, you are a badass after all. Listen to music, put your headphones in and drown it out. Go for a long walk and just breath. Do some yoga and read something spiritual. Do what you have to do.

This is more of a reminder blog post… reminding you that you won’t feel bad forever. That the business is there for a reason. That you can and will hustle through it and your competition should be scared. That you are a badass goddess and should treat yourself as such.

Cry, eat the chocolate, feel the grief, inhale deeply – exhale it all out and focus baby, focus.

 

Love to you from the bottom of my heart,

Carlee. xo

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MY TOP TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A BREAKUP

 

Can I just say…”ughhhh”.

Breakups suck even when you’re the one doing the breaking up…even more so when you’re not.

Girl if you loved him, like really loved him, this shit is going to hurt, there’s no getting around it.

For all the ways I’ve coped after a breakup (there have been some major disasters) I can share with you my top tips in hopes that something might spark within you and lessen the hurt.

Things have changed with all the hype over not eating icecream on the couch and crying your eyes out while watching He’s Just Not That Into You… choosing instead to workout, buy cute clothes and “ruin his life”. While that does sound kind of fun, in the worst way possible.

Depending on your age chances are you’ve already had your first breakup and have uttered the classic words “I can’t live without him”.

Then, 6 months later (maybe less, maybe more) you realize you most definitely can and as a matter of fact you are living without him.

In all of my relationships I’ve looked back and come to terms with the fact that I stayed much too long. In hindsight a breakup can even be a blessing.

When I’m about to break up with someone or have had my heart crushed (knock on wood baby) I look back at my previous breakups.

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Yes, they hurt like hell. 

Yes, I thought I was dying. 

Yes, I watched romantic comedies. 

Yes, I ate way too much chocolate. 

But, 

You know what else happened? 

I got through it. 

I realized what an asshat the guy actually was. 

I honestly couldn’t believe I chose to date him in the first place. 

I started doing more with friends, family, hobbies and business.

I became happier, more focused… and thinner. 

I remembered my value.  

 

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Specific top tips? 

Block his number…at least for the first 72 hours. (come on, WE all know how hard this is)

Drink lots of water. (beautiful hydrated skin is a must, especially now)

Buy the cute clothes & look damn fine. (I know I said revenge was the worst, but it feel soo good)

Tell yourself “I love you”

Get out with family & friends

Start a new project

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Allow yourself to cry, wipe your tears, remember you’re a badass and that good things are coming your way.

Oh.. and shoot me a message (or comment below) on Instagram or Snapchat and we will talk you through this together girl!

How do you get through heartbreak?

Carlee. xoxo